May 16, 2022
So we cared for you. Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. - 1 Thessalonians 2:8 The mission isn’t simple, but the ingredients are. Last Recalibrate, we explored the topic of Leadership vs. Lovership. Great leadership is so more than just x’s and o’s and accomplishing tasks; it’s going after something more sacred ... the heart. 1. Leadership assimilates information, Lovership facilitates story. Our gatherings with our brothers should never feel like a meeting. Anybody ever attended a work meeting that should have been an email? Don’t circle up with your men to just exchange information. Instead, exchange stories. These are the ingredients of a good circle: Love. Intimacy. Oneness. Connectedness. With God and With
March 09, 2022
One of the great ancient battlegrounds is the land of marriage. It is a field that has long been occupied by enemy forces. The casualties are great, some estimate that 50% fail to survive. Estimates on the happiness of those that do, well it’s hard to say how many are enjoying marriage. Because one false self calls to another false self … and when two false selves are facing one another, everyone gets hurt. It is impossible for a man to love a woman without renovation, restoration, and partnership with God to truly learn how to offer rather than demand, love rather than judge, and protect rather than consume. If we are going to win the battle for her heart, we men must get our own hearts back. Partnering with God to do that while married (or in any relationship) is a tricky business
February 14, 2022
Do you want to start a men’s group? Maybe you are a church, a ministry or a man with a backyard fire circle or a habit of morning biscuits and coffee - if so, I think this blog will help. I’ve always been fascinated by the lie of the enemy that I am alone and his encouragement to isolate. Friendships are hard and costly, they require some measure of transparency - it’s messy! Let’s see what ole Screwtape says about this to Wormwood … My Dear Wormwood, Plagues are a most effective weapon given to us by our father below. Normally, Christians are quite comfortable in receiving the dreaded sacraments and gathering in their prayers and other heinous arts. But if you can stir up a hysteria by means of a plague, so that they cut themselves off from our enemies gifts to them, the torment of
December 08, 2021
“Often when you think you're at the end of something, you're at the beginning of something else.”- Fred Rogers When the lovers of God teach you truth, a fountain of life opens up within you, and their wise instruction will deliver you from the ways of death." - Proverbs 13:14 (TPT) Gandalf He moves about Middle-Earth with a vast knowledge of its history. After all, he has been there for much of it, since the Third Age. He is both confident in who he is, and humble with those whom he serves. He is a guide to many, for that is what he does - he helps. Some may say, “Gandalf isn’t real,” to which I would reply, “Oh, he is very real.” Did he really live? Well, that is a different question altogether. Characters, whether fictional or factual, live. It is how they lived that must be seen. C. S
November 08, 2021
How many men’s groups do you know of where you would say, “Dang!!!! They are making a difference, and I gotta be a part of that!” There is a great loss of heart in the hearts of all men. Going after the hearts of men, seeing them healed, trained, free and wholehearted, then turned loose back into a landscape of spiritual battle is not for the faint of heart. It takes courage. It takes real intimacy with the Father to sustain you during the fight and to fill you on your masculine journey. It also takes intimacy with your fellow man - loving God and loving others! Most men’s groups fail. Let that set in for a second. According to WACMM Fewer than 10% of U.S. churches are able to establish or maintain a vibrant men’s ministry. Whether you are in your backyard, around the board room table, or
June 22, 2021
I’ve always loved The Lion King. Before the Broadway play in 1997 and Disney’s remake in 2019 (both of which are really good), there was the original, the 1994 animated film starring James Earl Jones as Mufasa and Matthew Broderick as Simba. I was thirty years old when it came out, just old enough to be a dad and just young enough to still be a kid. Over the years of this story’s influence, I have seen more and more how, at its core, it is filled with many Biblical characters -- Joseph, Moses, the prodigal son, not to mention the deep Biblical themes of good versus evil, resurrection, becoming, and the journey of learning how to wield power and authority for the hearts of others. These characters and themes resonate deeply with the hearts of image bearers everywhere because the characters
March 01, 2021
“I hear what you’re saying but do you hear what I’m saying?” “Yes, but I don’t think you understand.” “What don’t I understand? How can you say that? ... It’s you that doesn’t understand.” “That’s not fair.” “Oh, now I’m the one not being fair? I’ve told you so many times, I don’t want you to load the dishwasher.” It’s funny when its someone else. And yes, the story above really is one of the milder disagreements I had with my wife. Unfortunately, that’s how it often goes. Two people discussing who is more right, or at least defending themselves to the death that they are not the one in the wrong. Like a bus, our marriages seem to stop at these familiar places on a regular basis. And all too often, when one of us is getting off the bus, the other is getting on. There is always far more
December 04, 2020
Just because you like something, it doesn’t make it good, right or true. Just like because you don’t like something, doesn’t make it bad, wrong or untrue. We see this as parents for our kids, but often forget that we are still kids ourselves, with a Heavenly Father. In 56 years, I’ve learned a few things ... but not near enough to no longer need a Father (Thank you, God, I have one in you!). Because today holds some things and some people - those I know and love as well as a host of those I don't yet know and have yet to come to love. Each day holds circumstances and events that, though familiar, are unique to today - I’ve never been here before. I've never lived this particular day before. In every situation past, present, and future, I am ready to confess … I am tainted. My belief system
October 30, 2020
We were created for love, made by God for a love affair of the heart. Intimately connected in oneness. Jesus even prayed it in John 17:20: “I do not pray for these alone [it is not for their sake only that I make this request], but also for [all] those who [will ever] believe and trust in Me through their message, 21 that they all may be one; just as You, Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be one in Us, so that the world may believe [without any doubt] that You sent Me.” (AMPLIFIED VERSION) And where there is a love affair, there can be jealousy. God? Jealous? Oh yes … You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am
October 09, 2020
Who knew a swab could go that far? For those of you who have been tested for COVID, you know the mixed feeling of concern and hope, the reasons you would subject yourself to such a test. You feel the need to be responsible - and to not be responsible for the spread of the virus. And, whether with symptoms or without, you want to know what might lie in store for you in the days to come. The week of September 18, COVID came calling on Zoweh. Eleven of us tested positive. Four weeks later, we have all suffered to varying degrees and endured symptoms from fever, chills and aches, to rib bruising coughs. A few of us have been more fortunate to see only the mildest of symptoms, while most hard pressed during their days of quarantine. The symptoms that are seldom talked about are the dreariness