We’re all familiar with the flight attendant “in preparation for take off” speech. Specifically the part when they say,
In the case of sudden loss of cabin pressure oxygen masks will drop. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally… If you are traveling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.
“Your mask first.” Seems a little selfish, don’t you think? We know better. If you are going to be of any help to your child or loved one you are going to need to tend to your safety first. It’s true in the spiritual realm as well.
Fathers, if you are going to be of any help, any encouragement, any strength to your children, then getting your heart back is critical to helping the hearts entrusted to your care.
There are many kinds of dads out there. We aren’t “called” to be a dad; you either are or aren’t. The calling is on you. Every man has been on a challenging journey, a masculine journey of becoming more or less of whom he has it in him to be. Long before a man becomes a father, the enemy has come to steal, kill and destroy his heart … attempt to make him settle for less. The kingdom of darkness is all about assaulting a man during his lifetime, from boyhood to fatherhood with a heck of a lot of wounding. Darkness is betting it will impede our ability to breath, compromise our capacity to love and stunt our strength to offer. Being compromised is a very dangerous position from which to fight for your kids. Dangerous to your heart and to theirs. The further you are from your True Self, the harder it will be for your kids to find theirs, and that is exactly what our enemy wants. The more you are free, walking with God in your True Self, the greater your voice and strength. This is what the Trinity wants. A man’s True Self is felt, seen and experienced by those he is given to love when he walks in the freedom given him by the Father through the Son …
nothing to hide
nothing to prove
and nothing to fear.
Living and loving like Jesus, the unique and incredible one whose image you bear. When a man comes to experience first that he is a beloved son, he can then fight well for the hearts of his children. God is with us and for us, and it is His unconditional love that, when experienced, will transcend and transform us. And that is what all children need: a father who is transformed.
This fatherhood thing is important, very important, and therefore the primary target of our enemy. Satan and his minions are counting on the storms of life working against you rather than training you. Our children live in the same story we do, and the same story our fathers did. It is a very large story in which living in naiveté or ignorance (or worse - unconscious to what is really going on, how it all works and whom God is inviting us to be) is not only a turbulent journey, but is certain to end in disaster. Experiencing the love of God is our lifeline, the oxygen we need that when the challenges come. And they will come. With the love of God, not only can we breathe, we can also engage and assist those entrusted to our care.